She is 7. We call her “B” and she has some personality!
I just loved displaying my style on my daughter through her wardrobe as a cute little toddler. Fun patterned Boden dresses, mixed ginghams, pocka-dots…
People have always complimented me on my outfits and the “strange” combinations of colors or statement necklaces I wear. I do have a style- it isn’t what everyone would consider cool or beautiful but it is me. I think that is part of why others like the looks I put together because they suit me.
When I was younger I would copy looks I saw on others that I admired. There was a “sparkly” jewelry phase that my coworkers were into and I loved the way it looked on all of them but when I tried to wear my necklace I felt like I should be going to the academy awards. It wasn’t me. I’m older than I care to admit on this newer blog but it did take me a decade or so to figure out what was “me” in style.
So… back to my 7 year old. I figure if I let her experiment with all kinds of outfits of her choosing she will figure out by about like college what “her look” is or at least what it isn’t. She wears things that make me CRINGE! I swear, we are talking emoji leggings under shorts in the middle of the winter, lots of looks that are just a tad off with a furry black vest, pearls with a neon sweatshirt, tank-tops with everything even in the middle of the winter…I could go on and on.
I have a theory, the women that are my age (or even a bit younger) that look at me and think they don’t know how to pull an outfit or a room together- just never messed around like my seven year old. A teacher once told me that everyone has the ability to be an artist but that at some point some kids realize that their drawings don’t look as good (or as realistic) as others’ and in their mind they decide they can’t draw and eventually they stop and never get better at it. That could be true.
In our first house (about 20 years ago) I painted the living room walls a dusty grey plum- I had seen the color at our local Ikea showroom and thought it was so cool in that room. I also really liked what it said about me- that I was willing to take a risk and try something that the average family didn’t have in their living room. It is like how B dresses- she is being bold and expressing who she is and that she is willing to dress like no one else.
I’m sure this is a topic that could be debated and I may even get a few comments that disagree with my choice to give her freedom in this area. I do set some limits- she isn’t allowed to wear revealing clothing and knows full well she isn’t allowed to wear leggings without something covering her behind unless it is for athletics. There are also certain times that I director her to the mirror and simply say- “are you sure about that look?”- she usually is and I usually just smile because I am so happy that my girl has the guts to express who she is “trying on” on the inside through the outfits she actually wears on the outside. Beauty is a process.